Nightlife/Clubbing Social Skills: Self Confidence

The meaning of self-confidence relates to self-assuredness in one's personal judgment, ability, power, etc. This is a must for any of this to even start. This is something that just cant be taught. You must attain this on your own.

Swagger carries you to know bounds. I'm 5'3 but I walk around like I'm 6'0. You know why? Because I can and so can you. The belief that no one can stop you and its going to sound cheezy but, you can do anything you put your mind to.

For some reason people, especially women, can smell a person with self confidence. Dont take this literally that its a cologne or spray that you wear, but its just how a person conducts himself/herself when they walk into a room or wherever. You can tell. Its like they have this aura like Rick James..haha..

You have to believe in yourself and self worth when your out doing this or else...Sure you can learn how to talk like your confident or resonate the same body language as one(thats another Social Skill we'll talk about later on), but people will know when your faking the funk.

Its so important to believe in yourself. If you dont, then why should other people believe in you?

Here is an exercise on building confidence, it might not work or it might. Give it a try:

Self Affirmations
1. Get a piece of paper and a pen
2. Start thinking of characteristic's you have currently or would want..ie like confident, good looking, great smile, handsome, popular, Bitches Love Me(my personal favorite haha) etc...THEY HAVE TO BE POSITIVE CHARACTERISTICS...NO NEGATIVE. Try to think of at least 20 or more!!!
3. Write those characteristics down on that sheet of paper...legibly.
4. For the next 45 days you MUST read that list outloud infront of the mirror and say those characteristics...For instance if you wrote on your list that you have a great smile, popular, fun..etc. You would go to the mirror and say this and look at yourself while your saying it"I have a great smile, I'm popular, I'm fun, etc." Do that until you finish going down that list. Do this excersise twice a day for the next 45 days. Heres a better tip. Do it right before you go out of your house and see how you feel.

Studies show that this actually works. Its a scientific fact. Google it if you want. I know because guess what, I've tried it. How this works is purely simple. Your training your mind everyday when you do this exercise. You may not believe that you have all those characteristics, but since you keep repeating them over and over again to yourself, your mind subconsciencely starts to believe it. You keep telling yourself that Bitches Love You and you start actually believing that, then it will manifest.(you might have to actually do work for this, but at least you'll have the right mindset)

Try it out. It may sound silly and absurd, but it never hurts to give it a shot. The only way to fail is to not try. I would rather fail doing something than not try at all. Whats worse? Think about that.