Nightlife/Clubbing Social Skills: Having the right type of Energy

Having the right type of energy level can make or break you when you are talking to people in the nightlife. For example, if you walk up to a group of people who are smiling and having a good time, you must either come in with an energy level just the same as them or slightly above theirs.

You come in with the same energy level because you want to stay congruent with that group. This way its easier for you to talk to them and break them down. Coming in with a slightly higher energy level than them conveys that your having a little more fun but not too much fun that you look like a drunken crazy fool. If you go in with an energy level way too high, they might get freaked out and think your on BLOW or something else.

You definately dont want to come into a group with a lower energy level than theirs because you will be a buzz kill. The group will not appreciate it at all. It will be totally awkward. Never place yourself in this predicament, ever.

Be the person with the higher social value. You can go either or, but for me I always try to come in with a slightly higher energy level. You must be careful with this because you will have to sell to them WHY your so energized. Be prepared to have a lively conversation and keep it up!

Do work!